In Case You Were Wondering...

This post is Colleen dictating to Steve through a haze of delaudin from my hospital bed – the Banner Thunderbird hospital in Phoenix.  It may sound bad that I’m in the hospital, but I’m feeling a hundred times better and I’m really really glad to be here.  This means it may soon become a Steve only post if I fall asleep mid sentence.  Forgive the media blackout – this has been a really awful week.    A week ago Friday, I was in too much respiratory distress to go through IPT.  Instead, I went for a chest x-ray, and was put on oxygen in the appt.  Last Tuesday I had the IPT.  After treatment, I was in a lot of pain, and was referred for an EKG.    In retrospect, it is pretty amazing that the hospital did not recommend admission and further testing, considering my obvious distress.  Long story short, despite having two chest x-rays to the contrary, both my lungs have been filling with fluid over the past two weeks.  It seems amazing to me that I could have missed this.  Especially since I went through the exact same thing a couple of months back.  I think we can attribute it to wishful thinking and poor choice of diagnostic tools.  Next time, no reliance on chest x-rays – a cat scan is needed. 

I know it must have been scary for those of you following along when I started to go mute.  Trust me, it was scarier on this end.  I’d written before about the relative horribleness of pain vs. nausea.  In comparison with these, being unable to breath is in an entirely different league.  But I also did have alot of nausea (possibly triggered by the shortness of breath).  A complete loss of appetite, and, just in case you thought the universe didn’t have a sense of humor, my back decided to go out resulting in painful muscle spasms. 

Throughout all of this, I have tried to hold onto whatever small shreds of joy and humor and love I could scrape up.  Devra, Margaret and Colin won the caregiver jack-pot in being here for what I hope and pray will be the worst.  I say this because, I will never again allow myself to miss the symptoms of my lungs filling up.  I believe that it is possible to face even the most terrible things in life with peace and surrender and I continue to work towards that, but I am certainly not there yet. 

Now for some good news.  The doctors were convinced based on my symptoms that I was developing a blood clot(s) in my lungs, and this is not the case.  Although we are still going to go through a cardio work-up, and there is cause for concern about my heart with all of this, there doesn’t seem to be anything dramatically wrong there.  I could have cried with relief last evening when I realized I didn’t have to go through another night of breathlessness.  I was very worried about going through another manual drainage, but, when I told them I really wanted extra sedation, I got through it more easily than last time.  My lungs drained 450 mls from my left lung and 1350 from the right.  It is not good news that the right lung is involved, but I am not planning to panic about that (or anything else if I can help it).  My plan, at the moment, is to get out of the hospital, and continue the new chemo protocol with Euromed for at least a few more weeks so we can take a look at the lab results.  If there is evidence that the cancer is responding, we’ll stay on course.  If not, we’ll make a decision.  Meanwhile, I will probably get another blood transfusion to get my hemoglobin back up, consider a surgical intervention to hopefully stop the pleural sack of the lungs filling with fluid.

I said good-bye to Devra today, who had extended her stay to 1.5 weeks and was, along with Margaret, a godsend.  She spent an hour and a half on the phone with my insurance company doggedly working to understand and solve the authorization problems we were having.  She was a truly fantastic sister and friend even though Butters decided he liked her better than me. 

Mom arrived yesterday afternoon, and met us at the hospital.   She spent hours with me in silence handing me ice chips which were the only thing I was allowed to take in with possible surgery looming.  She will be here for at least a week.  Steve arrived this morning and is making himself useful as a scribe.  One thing few people know about Steve, is that he worked as a secretarial temp, and his top typing speed was 90 words per minute.  He was able to keep up with my delaudin-slurred dictating pace.  As you can tell, I managed to stay awake.  Thanks to everyone who is keeping up with this.

To Hell and Back...

In order to try to deal with the persistent queasiness, I've tried all manner of things. One of the most recent was Marinol, a pill containing THC, from marijuana. I tried it the morning we went to the acquarium. First impression was that it did not work at all. I was nauseous all morning, and felt otherwise normal. After getting home, I waited a while before deciding to increase the dosage. At this point, I was lying down, and thank goodness. Some time after taking the second pill, I realized I had dozed off. I woke up with an incredible feeling of warmth (side effect), drowsiness and no nausea. This seemed good at first, but soon started to take on a nightmarish aspect. I kept having the feeling that I was dreaming or watching a movie instead of being awake. This disassociation, coupled with a slight paranoia was awful. It took hours to feel normal. I hated it. I imagine it could be useful if I were in terrible pain or vomiting. I hope I never need it! Yesterday, I tried another drug, in suppository form. It was a tough day already. In the morning, the doctor told me that, as I had suspected, my tumor markers had gone up not down. They fear the cancer is resistant and not responding. They will tweak my chemo regimen starting Friday. He told me not to give up hope. But it was hard news to hear. I found myself weepy and afraid all day. I took the medication in the afternoon. It didn't seem to make me less nauseous, at least not right away. But it sedated me. The sedation had a depressive effect, exactly what I didn't need! By later afternoon, I found myself in a state of utter despair. It's hard to describe how awful it was. I could not shake it, try as I might. I was in a Hell of my own making, trapped in my misery, barely able to be civil. I apologized to Margaret for being in a place so dark even her love and kindness could not reach me. I couldn't imagine an end to it, other than suicide, which I would not do, but truly seemed a better option than living in that kind of emotional pain. I was in Hell. I'm not sure how long it lasted, at least a few hours. Then, two things happened. I decided to take an oxycodone for pain, which I knew would also lift my mood. And I realized there was only one way out, which was to come to terms with the worst. I remembered that I was capable of finding peace, even without hope. I started to meditate, breathing and thinking about how my life is connected to a much greater reality. I allowed myself to feel that connectedness to all of life, how unimportant my life and death are in the larger scheme. And, finally, I found myself feeling peace, even joy. This is not the same as giving up. But, by feeling at peace with the possibility of my own death, I can enjoy my life, and face the hardest parts with greater courage. I do not want to die young. But I can face it if I have to. I know that now. And that makes it easier. Somehow, facing the greatest fear makes the smaller things easier as well. I know I'll continue to have bad feelings throughout this. But to know I can pull myself back from Hell itself, is a great comfort. I know this will have been a hard blog for many of you to read. You, of course, don't want to think about my losing this battle. I'm glad for that. But I need all available energy to do what I need to do. Knowing that my death is not the end of the world is something I need to know right now. If I am at peace with either outcome, then I am at peace with the world. Haven't given up, I'm just going to be happy either way if I possibly can.

Fresh blood to feel better

Tomorrow I get a blood transfusion. Yippee! I am nervous about the risks but my hemoglobin counts are just too low (8.9) My blood is lousy, need some new and improved blood from a healthy (we hope) person. I Had big trouble falling asleep last night and hope it's because the shot they gave me for hemoglobin is also working to build red blood cells. I also hoped this would mean I'd wake up feeling better. Alas, not to be. I am still quite tired and feel lousy. The nausea is better, which is a huge blessing. I am not in much pain. But there is still that thing called malaise, just feeling unwell. Lousy. Yesterday, they drew my blood and gave me chemo. Quite concerned about how pale I was and my reports of feeling awful, they gave me a shot and ordered the transfusion. The shot effects should be longer and the transfusion works right away, so the combination is best. My Dad and Margaret arrived here on Friday afternoon after driving cross-country. Hey had a wonderful trip, each praising the other for being a great traveling companion. They listened to books on tape, talked and were quiet together. Dad was especially impressed by Margaret's driving skills and her ability to be ready in exactly 20 minutes after he knocked each morning. It was the longest time they had spent alone together, and I know both of them thought it was terrific. Mom must have appreciated some help at the end of a pretty rough weak, as I was mainly bedridden and pretty miserable. She was a great help, taking care of everything and sympathizing with my frustration and despair when things kept getting worse. Over the weekend, I had a low-grade fever, pain and tons of nausea. Boy, is it hard not to get really bummed out. Adding Margaret and Dad to the mix might have made it harder, in some ways, with all of us in the same space. I think what really helped was Mom finally finding her way to the larger pool here and doing some great swimming. It's hard for the caregivers to take care of themselves. Margaret is very smart about that, swimming and working out almost every day. My parents left early Monday morning and my dear friend Kathrin arrived that evening from Germany. She and I met when she was an exchange student in my high school. We were in the chorus together and have kept in touch every since, even with long, long gaps during which we didn't see each other. When we moved to Brussels in 2001, we took many opportunities to renew our friendship, visiting her in Munich and having her with us. Since then, we've managed to get together almost yearly. Still, it was a surprise when she offered to fly here for a week. I'm afraid it's not much of a vacation for her, but she is cheerful and claims to be enjoying the total relaxation here. Joseph arrives this afternoon. I am excited, since I haven't seen him since Christmas. By all reports, he is doing very well, enjoying his internship at Abbott labs and plenty of time at the beach. He spends some nights every week with Devra and Sergey and some home with Steve, who is enjoying their dinners together. The other day, I was at a very low point, when the misery of how I was feeling and the fear that the treatment wasn't working. I knew the stress of despair and anger were not helping me, but could not find a way out of the blackness. And, suddenly, I had a thought. My life is not a book, or a movie, or a play. It's not the end that matters. When you die, how you die, is just one more event. A thing that happens. A thing that does not necessarily have more meaning than anything else. Of course, death is the big event that annihilates everything that would have come after, the killer of potential events. But it does not need to effect those that came before it. So that's my goal, to step out of the shadow that the fear or dying can cast backwards onto my days. Not easy, of course, but it helps to tell myself "it isn't the ending that matters." Its hard to live in the moment when the moments contain pain, nausea and feeling crappy. But there are times when none of the above is too bad, and I can breathe and enjoy being alive. Right now is one of them and I'm grateful. Grateful for Kathrin, Margaret and Butters nearby, for Joseph in the air heading towards us, for all of you reading this. It is good.

Feeling better

I have been out of touch because I've been sick. It's been a rough week, and getting worse until today. I think I picked up a virus in my lungs. For some reason, I've also been very nauseous and dealing with pain. The lymph nodes under my right "good" arm started to hurt like heck a few days ago. This was terrifying, as it meant the cancer has traveled again. It also had me worried because the entire nightmare started when my left lymph nodes went nuts and I was in agony until they were removed. I had one bad night here when I woke up in pain. Mom heard me and came in to sit with me for the very long hour it took for 2 oxycodone to manage it. It was a huge gift to finally fall asleep. When I met with the doctors, they still felt this was probably just more of the body responding to cancer cell die-off with inflammation. They also decided to take me off all ivs except the chemo in a bid to reduce the lung filling up and remove the catheter. So far, this is not working. It may be the virus I picked up (running a low grade fever), but the lung is draining more, not less. But the worst over the past few days has been nausea that makes it hard to eat, which makes me hungry, which makes me nauseous.... Anyway, woke up this morning feeling not much better. Mom helped with the wonderful morning routine of draining the lung, taping the tube back in place with antibiotic ointment, trying to eat something (toast and eggs) and trying to fall asleep again. Then, miracle of miracles, I woke a few hours later feeling better! Ate some fruit salad, eggs salad, and am blogging. Boy, I hope this is the turning point. I still don't know if this treatment is working well enough to keep up with the cancer, which is still growing fast. They will check my blood markers on Monday. I am not optimistic for this time, but still hope that I, like others here, will see results over a longer period. The hard part is going to be managing the nausea, as both the chemo and the oral treatments cause it. You would think it would be easy to say "it's worth it if I live." But that's a lot harder to do than you'd think. I've decided nausea is worse than pain, which can be controlled with narcotics. It's bad to be in la la land, but not unpleasant. Anyway, wish me luck in keeping this under control. A whiny post, but that's what's been going on!

Sweet consolations...

Colin left Friday afternoon, right after I got back from my wonderful oncology massage. I was totally relaxed, sad to see him go and grateful for a really nice week with my little brother. We hadn't spenr that kind of time together since we were kids and we got along very well. He is a big animal lover, so Butters got another fan. He was a great caregiver and companion. Such a nice opportunity that came out of this mess. It was interesting being on my own for a half day. In the end, it was fine, but I realize how spoiled I've gotten in having someone around to walk Butters and get things for me when its so hard to move without pain. It makes me grateful that my family has insisted on my being accompanied throughout this time. At around 10:30 p.m., my friends arrived. They had managed to coordinate themselves to arrive from Boston, San Francisco and Jersey into one rental car. I can't even begin to tell how great it was to have them here. I've known Kristen, Susan and Bridget since we moved to Andover, CT when I was 3. Jacqueline joined the party when we all went to the regional junior high at age 12. So, we knew each other when. We started by getting into bathing suits and taking Butters out to the pool, where he isn't allowed. We happened to encounter the man who had just turned out the torches. He apologized and told me the dog wasn't allowed. I smiled and said "I know," at which he shrugged and left. I have changed. I think it can be filed under "things you finally realize you can't control," and I find I just don't seem to care as much how people think of me. While I can see why they have the rule, I can also see why it works best if not well enforced. If someone cares enough to complain, or if others with badly behaved dogs start to bring them in, then I'll put Butters in his crate. Until then, he seems to spread a lot of joy at the pool, as people laugh at his comical greetings and obvious happiness to be there. So we sat on the pool steps (I still can't swim but they did,) in the dark and relative cool (I'd guess around 90 degrees), and started our visit. Not all of us have kept in touch, so we had some catching up to do on families, careers, living arrangements, etc. We had decided to bunk in, despite not having quite enough beds and (to my embarrassment,) blankets. Nonetheless, by midnight, all were settled in under sheets on the beds, aerobed and couch. This is kind of a funny way to entertain. I mean, I had very little in the house ready for them, not even blankets! Yet, they weren't in a mood to complain. It wasn't the point and it was a little weird, a situation in which there isn't a norm to follow. Despite this, or maybe because of it, we had an amazing time. In the morning, Jackie drove all of us to drop me off at acupuncture and they all went out for breakfast. Their massages started at 11 a.m. and I got a kick out of seeing each of them return with the identical rosy, slightly puffy and wide-eyed look of someone just awakenEd from a lovely nap. It was great that the massages forced us to do nothing but hang about all day. One essential trip was made by Kris and Jackie to Bevmo to get the ingredients for Margarita's, prepared by Sue. I took a nap while they sat by the pool and we headed out for dinner at 7. Nobuo was recommended by Kris' friend who lived in Japan as some of the best Japanese food in the country. We couldn't get a reservation but were told we might get into the lounge if we just showed up. We seemed a little late for that, but pressed ahead. I think we all envisioned being crammed into a bar around little tables, rubbing elbows with strangers. When we got there, we were shown right away into a separate room with a leather couch, little ottomans and a coffee table, all to ourselves. The building was turn-of-the-century brick, with 14- foot ceilings, skylight transoms and original woodwork. Settling in with really great cocktails (just sips for me after a Margarita) that tasted tangy and of jasmine tea (only Sue's wasn't great, tasted of soap), we looked over the menu. It's my favorite way to eat, with small dishes meant for sharing. I was content to let everyone else order and, with a total of 11 small dishes for the 5 of us, our feast started to arrive. What a totally perfect evening. The food was fantastic, interesting, fresh, yummy. My favorites were a watermelon salad with chèvre, soft shell crab salad and sea bass with enoki and morel mushrooms that just melted in your mouth. We split the only two desserts on offer, an incredibly smooth chocolate mousse with green tea ice cream (perfect) and almond beignets with caramel sauce and ice cream (divine.). Lots of laughs, love, photo-taking and the perfect amount of fabulous food. It helped that I was on oxycodone for the pain, I'm sure! Sunday morning was rough for me. The antibiotic and niacinamide I take make me nauseous and I have to be super-careful how I manage it with anti-emetics and eating enough. I was sloppy and paid the price. Hard as it was, it was very sweet to have Sue rub my back as I retched and sobbed over the toilet. It's not just the great times that make you appreciate your friends. Oddly, though I didn't vomit, just the retching seemed to help and I felt ready for our outing. The Heard Museum of Native American art and history was great. Sue was smart enough to suggest a wheelchair and I was smart enough to go for it. After a nice lunch in the cafe, we spent a few hours in the museum. Kris adored the Kachina dolls in particular and Jacqueline, who studied Native American dance, was really psyched to be there. My Mom called to say she'd arrived and we managed to get her into my apartment to wait for us (where she immediately started ironing, bless her heart!) We probably stayed 30 minutes too long because I started feeling a bit desperate for a rest, but I'm really glad we went. When we got back and I had another nap, we headed out to Cafe Barrio for excellent Mexican food, sad and sweet goodbyes and they were off to the airport. Mom and I are having a great time. She came with me to treatment and sat there as I slept. Obviously, visiting did take up some energy, since I slept in the treatment chair from 7:30 to 12:00, right after a good night's sleep! My lung still hurts since I can't drain it fully, but the catheter infection seems less sore. It's nice to have a quiet day, but I am so, so, so happy my friends came out. It was one of the happiest, sweetest times ever, one of the great things that can come only from adversity. Can't say it's worth it, but it's a tremendous consolation. Thanks again!!!!

Hard days and tiny needles...

It's been a hard few days but things are looking up. After a wonderful Thursday through Saturday, I felt lousy on Sunday. Even though we had a wonderful visit with the Tucson family, I had to take a nap. That evening, my lung drained 175 cc after having dipped to 25 the day before. And my platelet count dropped to 1! Plus, I am really fighting nausea. Bad to go backwards. I felt tired all day Monday and Tuesday. Despite my best intentions to stay positive, I found it hard to resist the thoughts that this was all a big exercise in wishful thinking. Of course, it might be. But it's no good to think that way. Today, I feel better, although I still drained 150 cc this evening. I had a meeting with my medical team tgus morning and they made me feel better. Wanda, the doctor in charge of the insulin chemo is convinced I will be just fine. She is unconcerned about the platelets, sure they will go back up with the help of the nupagen shots they are giving me. She sees how robust I still am and feels sure I will do well. There are a number of possible explanations for why I feel lousy. 1. I am being overtaken by the cancer and the treatment isn't working. 2. The vitamin c is making me feel lousy (this is common) 3. What I am feeling is mainly cancer die-off that makes the body feel lousy or 4. Combo of 2 and 3. They seem to think that's the most likely. The other reason for optimism is that the cancer may have stopped advancing, though it's not yet retreating visibly. I am having some pain in the affected area on my chest, which Wanda thinks is is a sign that the chemo is attacking it. I am worried that my lung continues to drain, but they say its too early to be worried. So, what we are doing to do is back off a bit on vitamin c, add an additional treatment with ozone and UVB designed to make me feel better, and go for acupuncture for the nausea and fatigue. I managed to make an appointment today for acupuncture, which I've never had. The doctor was extremely kind. I started the treatment lying down on a massage table in a gown. I always was mystified and intrigued by the idea that you could insert needles, no matter how small, without it hurting. Guess what, you can't! It doesn't hurt much, but it doesn't feel great. Each needle goes in with a tiny prick. In each area, I could feel a reaction, a slight tingling. But my right shin started to really hurt, all of it! I told the doctor, and he removed the needle, saying that, for people with a lot of nausea, this area could be very sensitive. Then he turned on a tape and left me with a nice-smelling eye pad on to meditate and listen. The woman on the tape encouraged me to focus the tones (music played on what sounded like a small gong, cymbals and harp) on various parts of my body. I don't really know what that means but I did find that, by concentrating, I could imagine the music vibrating in the skin of my abdomen, chest, face, etc. Kind of cool. After about 20 minutes, he came back in, removed some of the needles (which also hurts a tiny bit), and did some acupressure on my feet. After more listening to music, he came in and took out the rest of the needles and worked on some pressure points on my head and arms. This felt fine, but worried me a bit when it came to my left arm, where my lymph specialist tells me hard pressure is not good. Then he had me sit up and massaged my shoulders and back. He then applied glass vacuum cups to my back, which are supposed to adjust my chi, and which pinch. I am most skeptical about this process, but have decided it won't harm me and is part of the package. We'll give this process a few weeks and, if it helps, I'll continue. If not, it's another cool experience to add to the adventure. So I feel a bit better and hope we are on a slightly adjusted and better track. I said goodbye to Margaret, who is flying home for week and driving back with my Dad so she has a car to use (too young to drive a rental.) She and I had a wonderful time with my brother Colin, who's still here for a few days. I'm excited that some of my oldest friends, Kristen, Susan, Bridget and Jacqueline arrive tomorrow or the weekend. I hope I'm up to some fun stuff with them but we can all just hang out and talk if that's all I'm up for. Hooray!

Two big days in a row...

Lots of news. After my IV vitamin C treatment yesterday, I felt so good I decided we should drive to Sedona. We headed north around 10 a.m. What a drive! The scenery keeps getting more spectacular as you go. In an hour and a half, we hit red rock desert, stopped to buy hats and get a map at the visitor center and admired the incredible view. Next stop was some chapel. You drive up around the bend but then it's a fairly steep climb around a paved path to the top. I felt like I could make it and did, even under the broiling sun. A bit cooler up there, it was still what a northeasterner would call HOTTT.

On the way up, I glanced at Butters, who was looking very worried. His head turned around pleadingly, hunched over and delicately lifting one paw after the other, the poor thing was being burnt! Steve scooped him up and all was well. After the chapel, we headed up to Sedona itself. The tiny town is quite touristy but not terribly tacky. Steve parked the car while Margaret and I sat in an outdoor cafe under big, yellow umbrellas. Lunch could not have been more perfect. The service was incredibly friendly, the food delicious, the breeze kept it from being too hot, and they provided water for the dog as a matter of course. Mexican food, very fresh and delicious. Yum! We headed farther North to Slide Rock state park. What a blast. Although we couldn't take Butters down to the creek, we took turns and even I managed to do a little sliding on this natural water slide where the creek runs over flat, smooth rocks. The water was 63 degrees and unbelievably refreshing under the hot sun. I can't wait to go back when I have my catheter out! Margaret and Steve were able to slip in and out of the pools and get really wet. Soaked and happy, we headed north yet again to loop up and catch 17 south. On the way, we passed through even more microclimates, including a pine forest that seemed positively Alpine if you didn't open a window. On our way back, we stopped again to show Margaret the cliff dwellings at Montezuma's Castle (I called it Table in error before.) I felt strong enough to walk in with her and see it again. Glad I did.

 We got back to hotel, dressed in a hurry and met Jeff and Dian Weisman for dinner. Jeff was my Master licensee with ActionCOACH and I haven't seen him in ages. They are both wonderful people and we enjoyed a really good Thai meal. Jef and I agreed to get together again before I leave to reminisce and talk over all the stuff that bores everyone else silly.






 The big news for today is that we moved! Thanks to my wonderfully generous in-laws, we are out of our tiny hotel suite and ensconced in a furnished apartment. The only ones in the area are called, accurately LUXURY and we are feeling well and truly pampered! Margaret and I can't wait to use the two pools, spa (very inexpensive massages) free yoga and zoomba classes. Plus, their smallest unit has two bedrooms and bath, so we are much better set up for all the wonderful folks coming to visit and/or look after me. I was starting to feel claustrophobic after just two weeks sharing one room. Even with a suite, there were no walls and nowhere to escape if you couldn't sleep or just wanted space. I feel better already! To see the place, click Video Tour of Sage Apartments

Margaret/Maggie arrives out of the blue....

My platelet count dropped, so they have given me an extra injection this morning and want me on more b vitamins.  With this, plus the antibiotic they’ve added, my biggest challenge is nausea.  I am glad to have the Compazine and Zofran left over from sloan kettering. 

The big development is that Margaret is here.  She decided that she wanted to be here rather than in London doing the internship.  Yesterday, while we were at Staples faxing invoices to the insurance biller, we got a phone call from her saying “I’m at JFK and will be there at 10 tonight.”  Wow!  Fortunately, Ann and Jef (with whom she is doing the London internship,) were not only understanding, but encouraging.  Ann, with her Irish belief that too much hope tempts the Gods, thinks I am definitely dying.  Incredibly generous as always, she put Margaret on the plane.  What a friend! 

We are more positive about my expiration date, but understand how Margaret would want to spend time with me either way.  It’s not clear yet how long she will stay.  She wants to stay all summer but may change her mind if I am doing better, or being here gets too boring and depressing. She’s welcome back in London anytime.  My preference would be for her to be there (not for me, but for her), but she knows her own mind and heart and I respect that.  Plus, it’s great to have her around.  She’s a great caregiver, compassionate but calm and level-headed.  We are invited to Aunt Margaret’s for their annual Father’s Day get-together on Sunday, and it will be nice to finally get the two Margaret’s together and to meet that side of the family.

A story I keep forgetting to tell…the Whopper Junior.  The day I decided to come out here for treatment was not easy.  I knew the process of pulling together my records and sending them here would be anxiety-producing, so I asked Devra to come up and help.  She was a great comfort as we dug through all the paperwork and found the key tests and bloodwork they wanted.  I also had to write a bullet-point summary of my cancer story.  Going through all this again felt like someone had picked up a smelly, filthy lead-lined overcoat out of a dumpster and threw it over my shoulders. It brought me to my knees, with feelings of dread, rage and grief overwhelming me.  By the evening, I was in a foul and fragile mood.  All of a sudden, I announced to Steve, “I want a Whopper Junior!” (At the time, I was still on a vegan diet.)  In two minutes, he had googled the nearest Burger King.  My inner two-year-old in charge, I replied “Forget it, it won’t help.”  He, wise man, just waited.  A minute more, and I said grouchily, “Okay, let’s go.”  Driving through the dark, I just let go of any dignity or reserve and wailed. I keened in fear and rage, an inchoate protest that doesn’t hope to be heard and doesn’t care.  Finally, I took a deep breath.  Shakily, but firmly, I said “Okay.”  Pause.  “Okay.” And it was.  We got to the restaurant, Steve ran in and, in just a few minutes, I sank my teeth into burger and fries.  Heavenly. We laughed on the way home, me feeding Steve fries as he drove.  Sometimes, you just have to take a break from being good!

So treatment continues apace.  I am hearing good things about this place from people here who’ve done much more research than I did.  They seem to have a good record of success, and I am talking today to a woman who had lymphoma and was here 8 months.  She is now on follow-up and doing wonderfully.  She looks like a million bucks.  Always good to see!

Enjoying the sunshine and getting better....

i left my electronic plastic room key in the direct sun for 15 minutes and it warped too much to be usable. it is hot out here! we are having a nice time. treatment seems to make me queasy and tired, but nothing like "real" chemo. We have settled into a routine. steve goes for a walk with Butters in a local park with Abraham, the walking buddy from Syria he talks to about world events. On non-fasting days, I eat and then we head to treatment for 7 a.m. On chemo days, like this morning, I fast and arrive hungry. After a bout 20 minutes of saline and magnesium drip, they inject the insulin through port. Lucinda wanted to know the dosage. It is 24,000 of humalog, for whatever that means. Hope i got that number right. After 15 minutes or so, she tests my blood sugar. Once it hits 50, she quickly injects the chemo and I drink juice and start to eat. Its not a good feeling to let your blood sugar get that low, I have to say. My hands were shaking as I started eating, but it lasts just a while. After this, I moved to the injection room to sit with everyone else and get my ionic foot bath and foot massage (yum!) while getting my multi vitamin treatment through the port. today I also did the hypergravity machine. this is a very weird experience of being vibrated very quickly as you stand on the machine. By keeping your knees slightly bent and leaning forward onto the balls of your feet, the vibration doesn't go to your head, which feels better. SImply standing on the machine is strenuous, its hard to explain why. Anyway, it is supposed to increase lymphatic drainage, which makes some sense, since that circulatory system is activated mainly through muscle movement. Based on Steve's research, we have decided to do IV vitamin C 3 x week instead of once. It seems, if nothing else, to make me feel better (although it can also make me nauseous.) I had a coaching call with a client and have gotten Mary BEth onto the task of setting up regular appointments with everyone I coach. Coaching a few clients a day in the afternoons is very do-able. It is good for me to keep the connection, and I hope good for my clients! ANyway, we are off to Wal-Mart for vitamins and supplies, as well as to fill a prescription for an antibiotic that will hopefully discourage the cancer going into my bones. Good idea! We have been having a wonderful time with Steve's cousin Lisa and Aunt Lucinda. What a great couple of women they are, and watching them bask in the desert sun and brun away their Seattle dampness is fun. They both love it here! We met two of Lisa's dear friends for drinks after a lovely dinner in Scottsdale last evening. Tonight, they'll come here to meet Butters and we'll have dinner nearby. We'll be sad to see them go, and hope to persuade them to come back again!

Catheters, sightseeing and friends and family...the bad and the good together

As I lie here writing this, I am deciding whether to have the pleural catheter removed from my lungs, even though it is still draining. At this point, the pain where the catheter emerges from my chest is the biggest problem I'm facing. It keeps me from exercising, or even walking, swimming or stretching. Unfortunately, we thought we were close to getting it out because I was draining far less from it. But this morning, it was suddenly 100 ml again. This isn't a ton of fluid, but it's in the wrong direction. The risk if I have them take it out is that the lung will fill up and need to be drained again. Worse, they could want to put a catheter back in. That's a tough thought to face. But I am starting to fear that this thing is a big obstacle to my getting better. Lying about is not healthy for me. Beyond this, it's been a nice few days. My friend Jacqueline arrived Wednesday evening and she and I had a great dinner out. On Thursday, I had chemo and then Steve drove us an our north to Montezuma's Table National Monument. This is the site of ancient cliff dwelling, something I've always wanted to see. It was incredibly hot, but we walked slowly around the 1/3 mile circuit, resting in the shade. Very cool. After a great lunch in a hole-in-the-wall Mexican place Jackie found with Siri, we drove to Montezuma's Well, an almost circular pond around which the same people lived about 700 years ago. I felt well enough to climb all the way down and back up. I took pain meds for the ride home. After dinner, Jackie and I went to Applebee's for karaoke. I sang twice. I was super flattered when the DJ clearly enjoyed and complimented me on my songs. It was Jackie's suggestion that I sing "over the rainbow" and there was a big round of applause afterwards (most of the singers were pretty roundly ignored)' so that made my night. Today, we drove 2 hours to Tucson and had lunch with Steve's aunt Margaret, her husband John and daughter Lynn, neither of whom I'd met. It was a lovely time. Butters was a perfect gentleman. I feel a bit better, so going to go out and walk around the pool in the warm night air.

First day of treatment

First day of treatment. The place is 5 minutes from our hotel and we arrived at 8:30 a.m. I was able to eat at 5 but fasting since then. Hungry! We were welcomed by Janice, one of the many warm, relaxed and cheerful people we met there. I filled out paperwork, including a 14-page medical history. One thing you notice about allopathic or wholistic providers is that they care about a lot more things. They want details on what you eat, how much you exercise, sleep, tons of symptoms other providers don't ask about. It's a pain, but does make you feel looked after at a whole new level. We then met with Dr. Deane, the director who admitted me, and Dr. Zieve, who will take care of me. Anyone interested can read his book, Healthy Medicine. One jarring question was "why did they do the mastectomy?" If the cancer is already beyond the breast, then a mastectomy is not indicated, apparently. Our answer was that they thought it important to remove the initial tumor. They said nothing, but its apparent from the result, that I would have been better off without the surgery. Grrr! it was reassuring to once again hear Dr. Deane say that they have had "good success" with triple negative breast cancer. Glad to hear someone has! Anyway, after paying by credit card for a week of treatment (some, but not much of which will be reimbursed through insurance), I spent a few moments envisioning our retirement spent working at Wal-Mart and living in a trailer park, then focused back on the idea of living to retire at all! My main treatment today was IPT, the insulin-potentiated chemotherapy. I was worried about this and made Steve stay, but it was easy. they accessed my new port (still sore and not psyched about being stuck with a needle, but oh well), took some blood, gave me saline and then delivered the insulin. Shortly after this, which left an odd taste in my mouth and made my heart race slightly, she gave me the chemo. they are able to deliver a cocktail of 5-6 chemo drugs that they find work well in synergy. You can't do this with normal chemo, as it will kill you dead. Then i could eat. Yay!!! they followed this up with oral supplements (broccoli extract was one!) and the "pink bag" of IV vitamins and minerals and I was done. We were there from 8:30 to 1:30 all told. I feel good, my lung drained only another 50 ML today, and, provided this stupid rash goes away and the catheter entrance heals up, i should be able to soon stop moving around like an old woman, slightly hunched over to not pull on the tubing, and slowly, not to jar my poor, sore side. For someone who walks fast as a matter of personality, this has been a drag. We went out to Wal-Mart to buy hats (we have a magnificent collection of hats at home that are, alas, at home, and various household things you need when you move via airplane and don't want to lug around, say, dishwasher detergent. On the way out, Steve encouraged me to get the pedicure I was coveting. I had removed the polish and, in a fit of detox-thinking, resolved to leave them plain. Alas, the chemo has damaged the nails, so they were discolored and yucky. I found it depressing looking at my feet. So now, I am sipping a very tiny glass of wine and admiring my hot pink toenails. A very lively color, a spunky color, a color for a woman who plans to live a Hell of a long time. Steve said he loves them, that they are a sign that we just left the bottom behind and are on our way up!

Some days...you could skip

I am sitting, once again, in a hospital room at Sloan Kettering. I did not expect to be here. Somehow, I missed two key pieces of information about this procedure to get a catheter into my lung. First, I didn't know it required staying overnight. Second, they didn't tell me they were also going to replace my medi-port. Both surprises this morning. The medi-port discussion was very unsettling. Basically, the doctor was appalled at the placement of the port, said he didn't believe it was ever in the right place (instead of the migration story we were told. ). Furthermore, he said it was in a terribly dangerous location, that it could easily have shut down all the veins in my neck area, causing my head to blow up like a balloon. It was clear that he was angry this hadn't been addressed much earlier. In the past two days, I had actually been feeling some pains in my neck veins. Probably unrelated, but I sure wasn't going to say no to this. So, to back up a bit, Mom and I took a bus into the city yesterday evening. She babied me by getting chinese takeout, which we ate on my bed in the hotel room. That was fun, though I should have eaten more. I've done this no-food-or-drink-after-midnight shtick a lot lately. But this time was the worst. I woke up starving at 6 am and feeling really crappy and stayed that way. It took hours to get things underway and I think they wheeled me off to surgery at 10. Nothing for 12 hours, and I really felt miserable. I don't know why, but the drug cocktail for this procedure was not the lovely, blank, can't even remember what happened variety. I was woozy but awake as they stuck me, pushed things into me, etc. Nothing was excruciating, but all of it hurt. I counted at least 4 injections of local an aesthetic, and I heard every word the surgeon said as he told someone what he was doing to me. It seemed to last forever, but was about an hour. When they were done with me, the pain started as my lung began to expand into the space left by the fluid. The last straw was a chest X-ray, sitting up for which caused spasms of pain in my back left lung. As they wheeled me into the recovery room, I was sobbing through the corridors. I just gave up and let myself cry. A group of young workers were goofing off, a young guy singing "13 candles" and I came close to shrieking at them to shut up as I rolled by. Too awful. By the time I got there, they were obviously concerned to get me some pain meds! But I decided against the IV dilaudid. I knew they wouldn't let me eat if I took that, and that seemed intolerable. Bad call, since they didn't manage to get me even juice and crackers until hours later. Once I had eaten, they decided to give me fentanyl by IV for pain. Whoa! I started to feel the med and my pulse and blood pressure dropped. I was dizzy, nauseous, losing it. I'm amazed by how utterly deadpan both the nurse and doc in managed to remain, as they increased my fluids, lowered my head and discussed giving me a stimulant. All the time, the phrase "oops. I think we just killed the patient" was going through my head in a kind of loopy way. My poor mom, watching my lips get white, hearing all of this, knowing, as I did that this was NOT GOOD, rubbed my hands and went along with the pretending this is not a crisis script we were all following. Anyway, the fluid did the trick and I stabilized. And it did stop the pain for a bit! They first thought it was an allergy, but saw I'd had the same drug during surgery and decided finally it was probably dehydration. After all, I'd had nothing my mouth in 14 hours and had fluid drained from my lung. Just when I was starting to think something was wrong, the pain suddenly got more manageable, I felt able to sit up, and mom brought me real food. But the next blow was when the person in charge of the drain showed up and told us they couldn't train me how to use it until tomorrow. Also, that the visiting nurse would have to come to the house for a few days afterwards. And all I could think was that Steve and I planned to leave for Phoenix tomorrow morning. Not going to happen. I do not want to delay starting treatment out there, but may be forced to let it slip by a day. Nothing to be done about that right now. I wish I has listened to Steve when he suggested doing this first might create a big delay. But I am glad to have the port fixed. So Mom was finally able to leave for a much-needed nap. They found me a room at 4 pm and wheeled me up here. The sun is streaming through the window and Dev just walked in. Things are looking up!

Moving to the desert...

Two weeks ago, I got the bad news. Not to put too fine a point on it, but the treatment has failed. The cancer, possibly in reaction to surgery, has exploded back into the skin, my lymph system and my lung. The news actually came on slowly enough, and I am aware enough of the implications of various things, to not have been shocked. I could see that the scar was not healing, seemed to be getting worse. I could feel the effect in my lung. bBut there's nothing like that old 2x4 between the eyes.... So what do you do? It's interesting how the mind takes in bad news, in a step-wise fashion, forward and back, acceptance and denial and distraction as it creeps up on you that things have changed. And I did despair. I found myself overwhelmed by grief and anger and terrible fear. It's been a very hard few weeks. But I have decided not to throw in the towel quite yet. A friend recommended an alternative treatment center in Arizona and I looked into it. I have to be honest and say that an extensive due diligence is more than I can take right now. I like their general approach, which is to attack the tumor through low-dose chemo potentiated by insulin. It's an FDA-approved, though still controversial (what isn't?) approach to try to target the cancer with chemo. It allows you to have less chemo, so the rest of the body says stronger. More importantly, they treat the immune system through IV vitamin c, detoxification, other vitamins, etc. They hope to help your own immune system fight the cancer, rather than just directly attacking it with surgery, radiation and drugs. The odds against me are long either way. With the traditional approach, I'm guaranteed a lot of discomfort and no cure. My hope is that this will offer a higher quality of life and perhaps even allow me to get into and maintain a true remission. So I am in the process of doing paperwork, making phone calls, packing and moving my life to the desert for at least a month or two. I plan to continue coaching and staying in touch with everyone. But, if you happen to be out west and want to come visit, I would love that!!! I'll post when I have dates.

Chemo again...

A brief update. I am in day 4 of chemo and the steroids wear off. Feeling it. I am scheduled to have a catheter inserted into my left lung that will drain for up to a month. This seems wise to take pressure off my system. Other than this, I am putting into motion an alternative treatment option that appears to offer more hope and less suffering. More on that as it emerges, but I am feeling good about it, as are the members of my most immediate team (or they are pretending to, which will do!) I have decided against pursuing a clinical trial of any kind (not that it's been suggested yet.). I don't want to be that much of a guinea pig (we are all part of a big experiment here, anyway.) Anyway, Butters is where he needs to be (my lap), I'm in almost no pain and nausea is at bay. I can write, read, watch movies and move around the house a bit. Not bad. Hard to believe this is helping me heal in any meaningful or lasting way. That's why I'm willing to try something new. Onward! Have a great holiday if I don't write again before then.

Home sweet home....Quick update

I am home from the hospital. Hooray! It wasn't bad, actually. The staff at Overlook in Summit were wonderful. Even the folks cleaning the floors made it a point to be friendly and kind. But after three nights, I'm relieved to be home. Change of treatment plan. I am not yet sure if the fluid in my lungs has cancer in it, but I am assuming so at this point. Because of this, and due to the cancer in the skin around the incision, I will be put back onto IV chemo starting Wednesday. Not the same drugs as last time (more info on that soon). Not good. May consider a clinical trial. Butters refused to look at me when I got home. I let him out of his crate and he grabbed his toy and went the other side of the coffee table to chew on it. He only came over to see me when I called him. Resentment seems a pretty sophisticated emotion for a dog, but it was clear he wasn't pleased with me. I have now been fully forgiven and her is following me about. What a bummer for him to have me simply disappear for almost 4 days! The other thing worth noting is that my chest X-ray this afternoon was clear - no fluid building back up. It's still hurts to take a deep breath as the lungs unsquash themselves, but there is no longer a stabbing, impossibly painful spasm when I inhale quickly. This had made laughing, crying or any sudden movement very scary. Glad that's over! I do cough when I take a deep breath, but it's getting better quickly. At the moment, I am feeling good, with almost no pain, no nausea, and a good end-of-day tiredness. This, I appreciate!

Breathing is a beautiful thing...

Great truth for the day: life is easier without two liters of fluid in one of your lungs. That said, it's not so hot to get the fluid out of there. The first try was yesterday morning. It sounded easy enough, a simple procedure to do right in the room. A little local anesthetic, a needle inserted into the lung through the ribs (ugh) slide in the catheter and drain the fluid into bottles. I sat on the bed and leaned my arms onto the tray table. The local injection hurt, but it seemed okay. I felt reasonably calm and looking forward to getting it over with. All of a sudden, I felt lightheaded. I tried to ignore it, but it got worse and worse. I had to fess up and they helped me lie over onto my side. I felt terrible, but better with my legs up. I lay there giving myself a pep talk to get this over with, slowly sat up again, and the doctor reinserted the needle. Instant blackout reaction. I was sweating, leaning over the tray table and praying to make it just the few more moments needed to get the catheter in and draining. I couldn't do it. I was shaking, crying, and almost unconscious. They lay me down on the bed, making apologies and telling me this happens, I shouldn't feel bad, etc. As if my biggest worry was whose fault it was, rather than that I'd just gone through Hell and still had all this crap in my lung! They were able to get enough fluid to send out a sample for testing. Choices of why this happened include cancer in the lung (bad, bad, bad), infection (unlikely), and injury. Not worrying about it. Results in a day or two. It took a long time to sort out plan B but they finally told me I'd have it done the next morning under sedation. Although this meant no food or drink after midnight, I was thrilled at the idea of being under during the drainage. I slept well. This morning they came to get me at 8:30 and wheeled me down to cat scan. I lay there for awhile on a stretcher until the nurse came and described the procedure. As I listened, I realized she hadn't mentioned any sedation and asked. When she said no, an "Oh no!" burst out of me, in a voice obviously fighting tears. How embarrassing. But how crushing, not only the thought of the whole nasty thing, but what if I fainted again? Karen was very reassuring, putting on a blood pressure cuff and telling me she would get me through it. I had to lie on my side and get a cat scan first. To give you an idea of the state of things (me), they wouldn't let me get up or help myself onto the table. They just slid me around on a board like a big sack of meat. Okay, so here we were again. Not to whine or anything, but I wish they'd give you pain meds for the damn numbing injections. It hurt, and it burned, and I've just had about freaking enough of this crap, okay? But I have to say, he worked quickly and well and the catheter was in very quickly and, hallelujah, we were draining! Then Karen told me that I might start coughing when the fluid drained and the lung started to expand. Thank God for the warning. Lying on my side immobilized, I coughed, coughed again, and then again. And I was coughing hard, unable to catch my breath, fighting panic. "Breathe out like you're putting out a candle" and I was brought back to LaMaze class as I puffed away, squeezed Karen's fingers, gasping, whimpering, trying not to panic. Somehow, I got through it and we we done. Two freaking liters of fluid in one lung. The fluid builds up between the pleural sac that encases the lung and the airways. My poor little airways, squashed in by all that water, we're basically collapsed. Lying there, every breath hurting and feeling pain I my shoulder, hip, back, it was easy to think something had gone wrong. But, as soon as I could stand it, they shoved me back into the scanner and announced that all was well. The lung reinflated fully, my cheeks looked pinker. Success! Getting the lung back to normal ain't going to be a picnic. Good news is there is no pain when i breathe normally. But every deep breath hurts a lot. And, a sharp intake of breath to laugh, cry or just move quickly creates an unbearable spasm. So I am on Percocet to take the edge off and instructed to use the incentive spirometer to stretch the lung tissue back out. As I write this, I am sitting up in a chair and feeling quite good. I can walk around my room and no longer have to cough every time I say more than 10 words in a row. The pain when I breathe in is getting better. Home tomorrow! Despite the lousy news, I am cheerful, even joyful. For the first time in my life, I feel fully justified in living one day at a time. Doing my best not to worry but to work hard at getting better, staying a step ahead of the cancer, hoping for extremely good luck and loving being alive. Time flies...off to my breathing exercises!

Radiation for Fun and Profit...

Radiation... Yesterday, we met with the radiation oncologist. I found myself ill-at-ease even walking into the building and at the thought of radiation, even knowing nothing but talking would happen today. They were running behind, so my mom and I had much time to grow more anxious or soothe ourselves in. I did some of both. I struggle to know what I want to say about this meeting. The nurse was lovely. Listening to her recount the clinical story of my cancer was not. Somehow, hearing it all again, even (especially?) stated in such a calm and matter-of-fact manner was horrifying. It made me realize how much I have managed to put out of my head. I know they need to be accurate, but I'd bet good money it disrupts the healing process to have your nose rubbed in it all over again. When we finally got to see the doctor, I liked her instinctively. A comfortable woman in her fifties with a relaxed manner, She was the easiest of my three doctors so far to talk to. Again, she reviewed my story. She asked me, "the involvement of the lymph nodes in the neck, you understand the significance of that?" I found myself nodding quickly, jumping in before she could tell me again what I know and want not to. "Stage 4" those dreaded words. And I can hear her voice and those words "the significance.". How to explain that I have chosen very consciously to give I no significance whatsoever. The best response comes to me only now. "Yes, I understand, and I've decided to live anyway!" After examining me, that dreaded palpitating of the lymph nodes, the feeling that my life is held in the tips of those gently probing fingers. The silent prayer, "please find nothing, nothing nothing." She said nothing. After I was dressed, she came back and sat down looking grave. (I had to stop writing then, finding myself unwilling to relive this experience, even for you, my loving friends.) Here is the upshot: the radiation to my neck will destroy 10% of my lung capacity. Because of my asthma and the pneumonitis after chemo, there is a chance I will feel the impact of this. There is also a 30% chance of developing thyroid problems years from now. But the radiation increases the odds of survival significantly, so we go ahead. On Tuesday, I will have another pet scan. If they see cancer in the neck lymph nodes, they will increase the dose of radiation. God Forbid. If not, it's more good news. So, another test, another opportunity to battle back the terror demons. On the same day, they create a mold of my torso to immobilize me during treatment and place tiny marking tattoos to guide the rays. I never did see myself as a tattoo candidate, but there you go! Then there is a trial run visit and I get 6 weeks of radiation 5 days a week, longer if the pet scan looks bad. Because there was cancer in the skin, they will concentrate more radiation there, and I am likely to blister as well as burn. Looks like it'll be back to the Percocet. And then there is the fatigue. Yea! So, being honest, I am dreading this. And, I am working hard to enjoy life anyway. I feel really great. Today, I worked a 7-hour day plus an hour of treatment, walked the dog twice, did a cardio workout and even blogged. And all that after a really lousy night's sleep. Not too bad. Steve should be home soon from 4 days in Houston and I am looking forward to seeing him. Thanks, Mom, for coming down while he was away. Nice to have company, even if I can do for myself now. More on radiation as it rolls out. Wish me luck!

One more thing they don't tell you...

So there is this dirty little secret in the mastectomy world. Its called lymphedema and it's what can happen when some or all of your lymph nodes are removed or damaged by radiation or chemo. More info is available now ha here used to be, but it's surprising how little you hear until you are in it. I'm no biologist, but I think it works something like this: The heart pumps blood through the blood vessels out into the limbs and back again. As it flows back and forth, about 20 liters a day (20 liters...think 20 bottles of seltzer!) of fluid (plasma) leaks out into the interstitial fluid soup in the body. There it does many important things, like delivering oxygen to organs. Then about 17 liters get reabsorbed into the blood. In case you didn't notice, this leaves 3 liters that didn't get reabsorbed. That's because every day, about 3 liters end up rerouted and cleaned by the lymph system. The lymph system is a bunch of tiny tubes that run just under the skin and flow only towards the heart. They connect to nodes under the arm, groin, neck, etc. that act like filters, killing foreign cells and reabsorbing proteins before dumping the "clean" fluid back into two big veins in the neck area. While it's in the lymph vessels, the fluid is called "lymph", just to be confusing. Mostly, it's all water with stuff dissolved in it that flows around and around. This is why it's bad when cancer gets into the lymph system. It's all connected! So this is all a wonderful and delicately balanced system. When we remove a big section of lymph nodes in the armpit, it means that the blood vessels are still bringing fluid down the arm, and leaving a portion of it to be brought back by the lymph system. But the main filter/infection fighting depots are gone. So the lymph has to find another route, and it can easily back up, causing painful and ugly swelling of the arm. Aren't you glad you know about this? I am not. My left arm has moderate lymphedema. It's hard to see if you aren't looking for it (for which I'm grateful,) but it feels uncomfortable and I know it's a chronic condition I have to manage for the rest of my life. This means, at the moment, daily treatment for two weeks at 7:30 am. Treatment consists of special drainage massage, compression pump and exercises, then encasing the arm in a tight elasticized sleeve during the day and another thingie at night. With luck, this will get the swelling down and I'll just be able to wear the sleeve to exercise and on airplanes. Its not a big thing. But it feels odd, after such a healthy life, to have this thing to worry about. It makes me feel old! I've taken off my wedding band for good, have to wear gloves for gardening or working on the house, and never let a manicurist cut my cuticles! This is because healing is compromised and can also cause more fluid buildup. Hey, I'm not complaining about a relatively minor addition to the tab for staying alive. But this side effect is really downplayed in discussing mastectomy. The people who got me motivated to seek treatment were Carol and Kay, two friends of my mom and breast cancer survivors. They warned me that I'd have to address this myself and to take it seriously to keep it from getting out of hand. I feel empowered to be taking care of myself in this way, and grateful for my own personal set of Wise Women standing guard for me. Other than this annoyance, I am feeling great, lifting weights with my LiveSTRONG class at the Y, walking every day, eating well and losing weight. I finished my prednisone taper and am officially drug free! In two days, I meet with the radiation oncologist (managed to get that appointment moved up a bit) and think that radiation will start within a few weeks. I have decided to embrace my inner warrior in thinking about radiation. Six weeks is not a long time. Sore and blistered skin, fatigue, nausea...been there, done that! Bring it on!

Life is good...

In between surgery and radiation there is...life! I am off dairy, sugar and reined starches. Last week, Steve wanted to make a simple pasta dish with kale, onions and garlic. But I, always having to raise the bar, find a vegan recipe for creamy kale pasta sauce. Honestly, the picture looked delicious....Poor Steve! Here he was, after a long day, following my directions given from the couch. If I weren't in some kind of delusional state, I would have known that any roux made with olive oil and almond milk was a BAD idea. Then, I asked him to chop the kale in food processor and add it in, sort of boiling it. Another bad idea. Long story short, after almost an hour of work, he brought to me with the heartening comment "I don't know, Babe...". I took one bite. Disgusting! I felt terrible but, far from being angry Steve looked, well...relieved! I started laughing, really laughing hard. We both laughed harder and harder as we dumped the revolting, gluey, smelly mess into the trash. In fact, we laughed off and on for about two hours. The thought of Steve valiantly cooking away while trying not to gag and me cheerily calling out instructions....hilarious! We called both kids to tell them how ridiculous their parents are. The laughter did me far more good than that food would have, believe me. This week, Steve was traveling, so I went to stay with my parents for a few days. My wonderful Dad drive 3+ hours each way to come get me and Butters. What a great time we had. I got there on Sunday, my Mom and I walked the dog to Whole Foods and she made us salad for dinner, along with the chicken my lovely friend Priya had dropped off as we were leaving Jersey. I am so well taken care of! In two full days there, I managed to have dinner with 4 wonderful high school friends, lunch with 6 Keenan relatives, dinner with my cousin Lynn, and get a lymph drainage massage and education on lymphedema at the health building next door. My parents live in a wonderful condo right in downtown West Hartford that is just the best place to be. I'm tempted to go up there again next week when Steve's away again, but it's a schlep and I hate missing my activities here. Speaking of which, I went to my first LiveSTRONG fitness program at the YMCA. This is an awesome free 3 month program for cancer survivors to get back into shape. Most of the folks are much older than me, so I look pretty strong. It actually made me feel great. The fitness tests were pretty easy, I can stand on one leg for a minute, walk for 6 minutes, bench press a decent amount, etc. Seeing just how tough this disease and the treatment can be, I feel grateful to still be so lively and strong. In fact, I feel terrific right now, energetic and strong. I'm looking forward to really getting fit. It will be interesting to see how the radiation affects me, but at least I have a few more weeks to strengthen before then. It is odd being at the gym after my mastectomy. I don't want to bother with my fluffy, somewhat itchy fake boob, so I am simply lopsided. I simply forget this fact for most of the time, then remember and feel a bit awkward. I am finding being one-breasted harder than being bald, I'm not sure why. Maybe it is that being "disfigured" is simply more brutal. I mean, it's a form of amputation, and I think we all have a visceral response to seeing an animal of any kind missing a chunk of what we expect to see. Or maybe it's that bald is a choice men and even some women can make for fashion reasons. I don't think anyone ever cut off their boob to make a fashion statement (if someone did, please don't tell me!). I find it interesting that I am self-conscious about it. But not self-conscious enough to put in a falsie for working out, at least not now. I might later, and I do feel much more comfortable in public with both boobs in place. There is definitely something to be said for not making a statement everywhere you go. But I guess I wish it's didn't bother me at all. But who wants to look funny if you don't have to? Another issue with the falsie is that it hurts. They tell me I may heal the nerve damage that left my left arm and chest with spots that are sore to the touch, making bras, shirts or clothing of any kind irritating, but that it will take months. Fun! Anyway, I feel great and am looking forward to singing again tonight. Today is a very good day for me to be alive in. Hope yours is good, too! Colleen

Why I love my cabaret class...

Just got back from cabaret class. I am enjoying it more than ever because I now sing without fear of failure. I am just beyond worrying about sounding perfect or being judged. So my friend Jill asked if I'd try singing "I will always love you" with her as a duet. When I got up to the mike, I said I'd need some time to work on it because I don't really know the song. Our director Maria wisecracked "You've got one try, Colleen, just get it right!" so I took of my baseball cap to expose my shorn head and shouted "hey, don't you know I've got freaking cancer??? Maria shot right back "God, I'm so sick of hearing about that!", so I pulled out my fake boob and threw it at her head. God, I love that class!